Friday, June 15, 2012

Going Solo

About a month ago I asked for prayers for clarity and peace.  I have made a decision and even though it was a hard decision to make, I do feel that it was the best decision and I have a lot of peace about it.  And until Baby Joaquin is home, I can't go into many details.  I don't want to say anything that would jeopardize his adoption.  Once he is home, however, fair game and I will share my story in the hope that it will help even just one family bring a child home from the C*ngo, or anywhere else for that matter.

So what I can say is that there has been an uncovering of information from parents who are now home with their children, the children themselves as they learn more and more English, parents who are still waiting, and some government employees.  The information that has been uncovered has led me to make the decision to terminate my relationship with my agency.

I will instead be doing an independent adoption with a facilitator and attorney.  In the end, it will end up being cheaper (YAY!!) faster (YAAAYYYY!!!!) and more importantly, ethical (DOUBLE YAAAYYYYYYY!!!!!).

If you are interested in adopting from the C*ngo and/or are considering it and would like someone to talk to, please leave me your email because I would be more than willing to share all that I have learned.  Just not on a public forum.  Yet.

I want to thank everyone for the prayers because I truly believe they were essential to leading me to this decision and the people that I will be working with to complete the adoption.

I do have another prayer request.  I don't want this to get ugly and it's starting to head in that direction.  My agency has paperwork and money that is legally mine.  When I first started communicating my concerns to them, I asked what all I would get in return if I did terminate.  I have it in writing from them so I'm hoping that they won't drag their feet and also that it won't get nasty.  I'm already dealing with unreturned phone calls and emails so I'm really praying that they would just send everything back to me and be done with it.  Thank you for praying about this because I really don't like confrontation.  At all.


  1. So glad that you have peace with your decision. I'll keep praying for all of the details.

  2. Yay...I am so glad you received clarity on what to do. And I will totally pray for them to give you back what is owed to you. I am so like you....I can't stand confrontation. :)

    Love you tons,

  3. Thank you for being willing to walk away when you felt your agency was being unethical. If more people were like you, I would not have the concerns I do about the future of adoptions from DRC. It is a really big deal.

  4. Good for you! I am interested in hearing about how it works without an agency!