tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post5781809187724823238..comments2024-01-27T03:34:46.667-05:00Comments on Spread More Love: Keeping It Real -2 Months HomeKristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00380638824312989108noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post-44562985447700495442013-05-02T08:06:14.930-04:002013-05-02T08:06:14.930-04:00I pray for you and for the healing of Muni: mind, ...I pray for you and for the healing of Muni: mind, body, and spirit! The words hit home for me when you said the "this is the kind of child that would poke your eyes our and burn down the house..." Not many REALLY know what you are talking about unless they have had such a child and looked into their eyes when they are in such a state of mind...I know exactly what you mean...as my daughter did try to poke my eyes out and left me legally blind in one eye for two weeks. Often these children are sweet and obedient in public and you do not want to say anything bad about them...but their teachers would have no idea how they can "flip"...After 18 months, we are seeing healing and understanding emerge. I still make sure the nails are very short!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post-68450887422765517392013-04-22T21:28:55.630-04:002013-04-22T21:28:55.630-04:00You are doing a great job parenting this child. G...You are doing a great job parenting this child. God clearly chose the right mama for this child. And the right child for this mama. It is not easy. But it is right. You may find this blog: http://www.onethankfulmom.com/ helpful. I sure do. And thank you for sharing.grarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17384128581195373098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post-26482623836250635332013-04-22T21:27:22.718-04:002013-04-22T21:27:22.718-04:00You are doing an amazing job with this child. It i...You are doing an amazing job with this child. It is clear that God chose exactly the right mama for her. And the right child for her mama. You will lose it. And she will forgive you. You may find this blog: http://www.onethankfulmom.com/ of help. I sure do. Blessings! And thank you for sharing.grarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17384128581195373098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post-17295983722186912042013-04-22T09:23:15.537-04:002013-04-22T09:23:15.537-04:00Two of my precious kiddos had these sorts of tantr...Two of my precious kiddos had these sorts of tantrums after coming home. Hang in there, Kristen. It's so hard, but definitely worth the effort. You're doing great!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04455698547207302964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post-61896156511674100892013-04-21T20:41:02.732-04:002013-04-21T20:41:02.732-04:00I'm so glad you're not being silent -- whe...I'm so glad you're not being silent -- when we're transparent about the good and bad, it frees up other people to be honest (and makes us feel like we're not failing!). This is wonderful, Kristen! I love your perseverance and willingness to keep trying, keep loving, and keep pressing into addressing the hurts Munni has suffered.<br />NancyPeter and Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10329947206142706470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post-7925505835098081432013-04-21T18:00:55.021-04:002013-04-21T18:00:55.021-04:00thank you for your honesty. seriously.thank you for your honesty. seriously.The Greenfieldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04453315269193346402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post-26245845434293400352013-04-21T13:21:29.014-04:002013-04-21T13:21:29.014-04:00Yep that's exactly right. I recall calling Li...Yep that's exactly right. I recall calling Lisa early on when we got home.... saying, she's biting and throwing food, as she looks me right in the eye - total defiance. Lisa's advice was, "that's NOT ok"... and she told me of times when families don't ever provide any discipline for years on end, because of the guilt... and then wonder after 5-6 years home why they have a raging brat. So these boundaries that you are teaching Munni with love will pay big dividends down the road -- keep it up, good momma. Also, I think it does get easier once they fully realize that they are not going to get by with defiant behavior -- Lauren is much more obedient with Brad than with me - I think because he didn't allow much early on -- and I was more the push over. She is getting better as I've been more consistent and applied those timeout (timein) consequences. I've also started using the same redirecting language that her school uses.... it's amazing how kids are angels at school and sometimes "challenging" at home. Using this same language is consistent and seems to get her attention. Hang in there....love the honesty. Brad and Renaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06731095690133052906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1877698187104754345.post-6838899728271787042013-04-21T13:13:07.026-04:002013-04-21T13:13:07.026-04:00OH thank you for sharing that. There have been so ...OH thank you for sharing that. There have been so many moments in talking to other adoptive moms that I worry we aren't going to be what our girl needs-and I'm so worried about what we are taking on. But at the same time, it is so good to hear that those feelings are normal, and ok, and things will be hard but thats ok too. It won't be perfect, but we can still find the good in the imperfect. Michehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09943079762244070030noreply@blogger.com